Mediation is one of the most effective tools for settling alimony disputes.  It can be used throughout a divorce to create an arrangement that works for both spouses, but is especially helpful regarding alimony.  Most attorneys find their clients are willing to negotiate alimony, as long as the negotiations are respectful, and their concerns are understood by everyone involved.

Alimony is often one of the most contentious issues in a divorce.  Spouses can work through parenting time and child support issues because they can put the best interest of the children at the forefront of their decisions.  Division of property might also be determined in the best interest of the children.  Alimony is based only on providing support or receiving support from someone whom you no longer have a romantic relationship.  The debate over who should pay what to whom is hampered by ego and it is easy for alimony negotiations to spin out of control.

Mediation keeps things under control and ensures that everyone’s concerns are taken into account.  Skilled mediators can guide divorcing couples toward a civilized understanding of the situation.  Often, alimony is a temporary arrangement, so when each spouse is able to view it as a means to an end, they are more willing to accept the situation.

Finally, mediation also alleviates the tendency for divorcing spouses to use alimony against one another.  Instead of punishing a spouse with an alimony arrangement, it becomes a tool used to help both spouses lead independent lives once their marriage has ended.  Nobody is being punished – they are each simply given an opportunity to successfully live separate lives.  Mediators can paint a picture of independent living and encourage spouses to negotiate a settlement that is fair and appropriate for meeting both of their long-term goals.