July 12, 2012

The Big Business of Divorce - Every year in the United States, there are one million divorces. In many respects, that’s two million people beginning life anew.

Divorce Settlements With Foreign Assets; What Are The Risks? - Many couples going through marital separations (divorce) have interests in foreign assets. Often these are dual nationals who have interests in family businesses in their country of origin, but regardless of the source of the acquired assets or  immigration history of the parties,  there are several important issues to consider in fashioning marital settlement agreements using foreign assets.

July 9, 2012

Divorce rate among ages 50 plus on the rise - As the divorce rate stabilizes across the country, there’s one generation that is seeing a spike in separation. New research shows that those 50 and older are leaving their marriages in hopes of starting over.

How Do You Cope When Your Life is Falling Down Around You? - This isn’t a phenomenon that is exclusive to me. We all have the ability to change our lives into the lives that we had always dreamed of. The only thing standing in our way is self-awareness. Before you can start to make changes or improvements in your life, you need to know why you fell down or struggled in the past. Once you know why things went badly, and once you’ve figured out what you want to happen this time around, then you can start planning and take the first step towards making that dream happen.

July 5, 2012

Mediation helps some homeowners keep their palaces - Cuyahoga County is among the regions of the country seeing relative success with efforts to provide mediation to homeowners in danger of losing their homes, according to this story from Reuters.

Mediation helps home owners in US avert defaults - The US housing market is showing signs of stabilization six years after home prices peaked, but the foreclosure crisis could be only halfway through.

The Wheel of Conflict and How it Can Help You in Conflict Resolution

The Wheel of Conflict—created by Bernard Mayer, Ph.D. and Christopher Moore, Ph.D.—is a graphic representation of the factors that give rise to potential conflict.  The concept of the Wheel of Conflict is important for anyone involved in dispute resolution because with it, one can prepare for complicated and tense interactions with another person.  Consisting of structure, emotions, history, communication, and values, the points of conflict along the wheel remind us of the contentious points that separate one person’s feelings and experience from another person’s.

Bernard Mayer, Ph.D., is Professor at the Werner Institute for Negotiation and Dispute Resolution at Creighton University, and Christopher Moore, Ph.D. has worked in the field of decision making and conflict management for more than 20 years and is an internationally known mediator and facilitator, as well as author in the field of conflict management. Both men understand conflict and what creates it, and have determined the most important points to be:

  • Structure—this is the dynamics of the participants that might be creating the conflict, for example, boss and employee.
  • Emotions—emotions are powerful drivers to the human psyche and the decision-making process.  Ignoring one’s emotions, or the emotions of others, can be devastating to the conflict resolution process.
  • History—a person’s past experiences and the history of a relationship between two people involved in conflict plays a significant role in the resolution process.
  • Communication—many don’t realize that humans communicate through both verbal and nonverbal methods.  Paying attention to both ways of communicating is an integral part of the conflict resolution process and could easily hamper it if one person is talking one way and acting (or posturing) another.
  • Values—different people have different needs and goals.  To assume that everyone thinks the same way you do about something is erroneous and can cause problems in the conflict resolution process.  Accepting that each person shares his or her own value system—a system that has been a part of their lives since childhood and is not likely to change—is one way to begin the process of successful resolution.

July 2, 2012

The Big Business of Divorce - Every year in the United States, there are one million divorces. In many respects, that’s two million people beginning life anew.

Divorce Settlements With Foreign Assets; What Are The Risks? - Many couples going through marital separations (divorce) have interests in foreign assets. Often these are dual nationals who have interests in family businesses in their country of origin, but regardless of the source of the acquired assets or  immigration history of the parties,  there are several important issues to consider in fashioning marital settlement agreements using foreign assets.