Sharel Shindler

C.E.L. & Associates, Inc.

1641 N. Milwaukee Ave.
Suite 12
Libertyville, Illinois 60048

847-331-3304

Child Custody, Conflict, Divorce, Elder, Family, Partnership Disputes, Same Sex Disputes, Trusts and Estates

Sharel Shindler   - Divorce Mediator

 

Has a B.A. in Communications from the University of Iowa and  received her Divorce Mediation training from Northwestern University in Chicago.

 

Prior to becoming a Divorce Mediator,   Sharel  spent ten years exploring the child care needs of North Shore families and  worked side by side with them to find a child care plan that satisfied their  needs through her own nanny agency.  She understands the scheduling needs  of busy families and the complex schedules that today’s kids have.  This  gives Sharel an extra edge in helping to arrange new parenting plans for  couples starting the Divorce process.

 

If you have children, choosing mediation should allow both  you and your spouse to avoid the anger and emotional damage caused by  litigation and help to create a positive foundation so that you can work  together effectively as parents after the Divorce.

 

Mediation is less time consuming than litigation and is  scheduled around YOU. Choose from one of our many office locations that offer  both day and evening hours.

 

Contact Sharel through the CEL office at 866-922-4733 ext. 5  or on her cell at 847-331-3304.      

 

She can be emailed at: [email protected].

 

Memberships and Affiliations

Mediation Council of Illinois

Association of Conflict Resolution

The Lilac Tree in Evanston

Associate Member - Lake County Bar Association

Does Mediation Work?

 

Results from Research and  Compiled Data       

 

People in the process of  trying to decide if mediation will be of assistance to them often ask,  "Does mediation really work?"   In a word: YES. We know from years of  research that, when you compare couples who have mediated their divorce with  couples who go through an adversarial/litigated divorce, mediating couples are  more likely to be satisfied with the process and the results, likely to take less  time and spend less money, and are less likely to go back to court later to  fight about something.        

The main advantage of mediation is that it keeps you and your spouse in total  control of your divorce. That can make all the difference in your recovering  from your divorce and moving on with your life. Mediation allows the two of you  to get through your divorce with less conflict than you would experience in an  adversarial divorce.

 

Researchers have conducted more than 50 studies since  divorce mediation first appeared more than two decades ago. Current data has  been gathered and conducted to begin drawing clear conclusions about whether  mediation works. The results of this research are very encouraging about the  effectiveness of mediation in the divorce process.

 

Settlement Rates       

 

Mediation produces agreement in 50 to 80 percent of cases. This is the case  whether the mediation is court-referred or privately placed, whether mediation  is voluntary or mandatory, and whether the mediating couples had a history of  domestic violence or intense marital conflict.

 

Overall Client Satisfaction                                                         

 

Couples who mediate the issues of their divorce are significantly more likely  to be satisfied with the experience of their divorce when compared with couples  who have finished an adversarial divorce. At final divorce, according to one  study, 69 percent of mediation respondents were somewhat to very satisfied,  compared to only 47 percent of adversarial men and women.       

The perceived skill level of the mediator, the creativity of the mediator, the  effectiveness in helping clients deal with anger, the mediator’s success  avoiding imposing his or her viewpoint on the client has a huge impact on the  success of mediation.  Additionally,  mediation can have an extremely positive effect on the spousal relationship,  satisfaction with the property settlement, satisfaction with arrangements  around spousal support, satisfaction with parenting schedules and arrangements,  and understanding children's needs and issues. In most cases, mediating couples  reported significantly higher levels of satisfaction than those that did not  have the opportunity or knowledge of mediation during the separation or divorce  process.

 

Satisfaction Among  Women       

 

In general, the difference in the levels of satisfaction with mediation among  men and women is not statistically significant. This is in contrast to  adversarial divorce, where men are significantly more dissatisfied than women  with the process and outcome.       

 

There has been some discussion of findings that women are disadvantaged in  mediation, but that initial research has been discredited. On the whole, women  in mediation express greater satisfaction with both process and outcomes than  do their litigation counterparts.

 

Effect on Terms of Agreement       

 

In general, mediated agreements tend to be more comprehensive than settlements  reached either voluntarily or involuntarily in adversarial court. In general,  mediation results in more joint legal custody compared to adversarial  processes, but not necessarily a different parenting schedule. Researchers have  not noted a statistical difference in the treatment of child support payments,  although mediating fathers are more likely to agree to pay for  "extras" for their children and are more likely to agree to help with  college expenses.

 

Long-term Mental Health                                                              

 

Researchers agree that mediation does not seem to have any long-term  statistically significant effect on the psychological adjustment of either  divorcing couples or their children, whether the mediation is custody only or  comprehensive.

 

Cost in Time and Money       

 

Mediating couples tend to resolve the issues in their divorce in substantially  less time than that taken by their counterparts in litigation. They also tend  to spend significantly less money. In one study, couples in the adversarial  sample reported spending 134% more (more than twice as much) for their divorces  than those in the mediation sample. Most reports tend to find less dramatic  differences, however, in the 30-40% range.

 

 

Compliance and Re-litigation       

 

Researchers generally report higher rates of compliance with mediated  agreements, when compared to agreements reached in the adversarial process.  This includes parenting schedules, payment of child support and spousal  support, and completing the final division of property. Re-litigation rates are  generally lower among mediated data and are lower than in adversarial data

1641 N. Milwaukee Ave.

 

Suite 12

 

Libertyville, Il 60048

 

office at 866-922-4733 ext. 5

 

Cell  at (847)331-3304

 

emailed at: [email protected]