MEDIATION: Mediation is the process of resolving conflict between opposing parties, who need the assistance of an expert to sort out their issues and expectations, and create a solution which everyone can agree upon.
WHY would I choose divorce meditation over litigation?
1. Divorce mediation is a process which saves you a ‘SIGNIFICANT AMOUNT of MONEY’.
The whole intent is to avoid the extreme costs of depositions and discovery. Litigation involves significant legal fees and trial fees.
Temporary Spousal Support can be established in the first session. Issues such as child support and future spousal support, are all resolved in mediation . Research shows that mediation is often one –tenth the cost of a litigious divorce. You are in control of how many times you desire to meet for mediation. This puts you in charge of the cost of your divorce.
2. It keeps the ‘ DECISION MAKING POWER’ in your hands.
The decisions which are made through mediation are solely in the hands of the parties involved. Whereas, arbitration is a judicial process in which decisions are made with less regard to the feelings and needs of those parties involved in the conflict. Many decisions are taken out of your hands.
This especially applies to decisions about spousal and child support. An expert mediator helps you navigate through your financial responsibilities. Together we examine your assets and liabilities, and determine which ones belong to whom.
3. Divorce mediation is ‘ NOT COUNSELING’.
The focus is not on the past. The emphasis is on the present and the future. With regards to the present: it is about what can be done to alleviate the immediate stressors, such as temporary child support and temporary spousal support. Divorce Mediation is about resolving the issues in the most expedient and efficient way.
With regards to the future, divorce mediation is concerned with moving forward into the healing process and taking on the challenge of starting a new life.
4. Divorce mediation ‘CREATES THE POTENTIAL’ for sustaining the relationship.
There is never a guarantee that the relationships will be mended, and I am fully aware that in some cases, that is not even a consideration. But when it comes to family members, or employee relationships, if there is the potential for healing and sustaining the connection that these two parties once had, then mediation is the only process which allows for that possibility.
The length of time to mediate your divorce is in your hands. It is common for a mediated divorce to take 3 to 6 months. A more conflicted and adversarial divorce can take 5 to 8 months. It is up to you.
5. Divorce mediation is ‘FAR MORE EXPEDITIOUS’.
The California Court System has lost 10 million dollars a year in its annual budget. Over 200 court rooms have already closed, with more to come. If one pursues a litigious law suit, it can take up to 3 years or more to resolve. Quit literally, thousands of cases are being pushed forward on the calendars. The result of this crisis, means loss of sleep, anxiety, anger and frustration for you, over a much longer period of time, had you not chosen mediation.